A good team starts with you

A good team is essential for successfully carrying out a project and supporting you during tough times. However, it’s still a group of people, and each person has their own ego: that part of the mind that seeks self-interest.

That’s why it’s practically inevitable that you’ll face criticism and judgment, even if people don’t always voice it aloud.

Fostering spaces for personal development within the team helps raise collective awareness, reduces judgment when mistakes are made, and strengthens cohesion.

Just as important as having a good team is your inner work. Believe in yourself, accept yourself with your strengths and weaknesses, and don’t let your ego punish you when something doesn’t go as you expected. Accept that, in every moment, you’ve done the best you could. Love yourself.

People who work on their ego develop more compassion and understanding toward others.

Your inner strength directly impacts the team. When you are able to look at others with empathy, without judgment, you create an invisible web of trust in which others feel comfortable, even without the need for words.

No one can do the inner work for you. Your mental freedom and peace depend on it, no matter how complicated the situation may be.

I don’t intend to convince you

When you tell me about your problems, worries, and difficulties, I try to listen to you carefully. Even if you don’t realize it, they are the result of your decisions, some conscious, and many others unconscious. 

Your ego, which, deep down, is also mine, since all minds are united, relies on your unshakable beliefs to keep you on the path that leads to suffering. Or at best, to momentary pleasure, which soon evaporates.

You insist on playing the role of victim in your work, family, and relationships. When in reality, deep down, it is you who have chosen the environment and circumstances in which you live.

You believe you can’t do anything, that you have no options, when you’ve already chosen, without knowing it, the path of the ego that leads you to judge and criticize.  You think that what happens to you comes from outside and that you are merely a poor victim of circumstances.

It is the ego itself that prevents you from looking within, where the answer lies, on the dial of consciousness where you choose one of two possible paths: that of Love or that of the ego. And it is precisely there that your only freedom lies, in the path you choose.

Once you set out on the chosen path, it will be very difficult for you to renounce its consequences. That is why, when you unknowingly choose the path of the ego, as happens most of the time, you believe that all you can do is complain. You are unaware that, whenever you want, you can return to square one, to the crossroads, and choose the path of Love once again.

I keep listening to your whiny, tiresome rant, which only drags you deeper into the bottomless pit of negativity.

I could try to explain to you that there’s another way of looking at things. But I’m afraid your ego will shut me out, and it’s even possible that my thoughts will provoke your rejection. It would be like trying to explain to someone from the 16th century, when electricity hadn’t even been discovered yet, how the Internet works as a global village. I’m sure the look of astonishment and disbelief on their face would be a sight to behold.

That’s why I don’t intend to convince you of another way of looking at life. I respect your current state of inner maturity, wherever you are right now, because we’ve all been there.

When the day comes that you’re fed up with suffering, that you can’t take it anymore, you’ll inevitably become more receptive, and only then will you desperately seek answers to your vital questions. You’ll realize that your essence has always been ready to accompany you on the path to inner peace.

The ball doesn’t bounce until it hits the ground. Your inner change will come when you’re ready to see life differently, not before.

How can I help Noelia?

Allow me, with the utmost respect for your opinions and beliefs, to share my spiritual perspective on what happened to Noelia, who, after a very difficult life, died at the age of 25 through the euthanasia she requested.

If you had a spiritual view of life, you would realize that everything happens for a reason and a purpose. There’s a deeper meaning behind every event. You would also stop judging what others do, since you lack the full information. You would become more respectful and compassionate.

Imagine Noelia, as a soul, who, before incarnating in this world, agrees with her spiritual guide on the key milestones of her life: being born into a dysfunctional home and being assaulted by three men. All of it meant to help her soul evolve through those difficult trials.

To do so, she makes agreements with the souls who will later become her parents about the roles they will play, as well as with her three aggressors. It’s like a play in which roles are assigned to actors. The character who harms another is just an actor performing their part.

Noelia’s soul set herself incredibly hard challenges in order to evolve, not knowing whether she would succeed.

Events unfold in her life as they were laid out in her spiritual plan. The suffering is so deep that she decides to end her life several times. As her health keeps deteriorating, she requests to die by euthanasia, and her request is granted.

Imagine that once she has passed away, she enters what’s called the transition zone, where her physical pain disappears, since she no longer has a body, but not her mental suffering, as she relives again and again the harm she experienced, and also feels the pain of her family and friends because of her decision to die.

She may remain in that state for a while, longer or shorter, since time in the spiritual world is not the same as time on Earth, until she gradually becomes aware that what happened was simply a difficult life test she couldn’t overcome. She will then release her hatred and resentment and open herself to Love.
At that moment, her spiritual guide, without judgment and with kindness, will accompany her to the Realm of Light, where together they will review her life and the lessons she learned. She will then be trained and prepared for her next incarnation.

And if you ask me: how can I help Noelia?
Connect with her from the heart, from Love, without judgment, because those thoughts will help her free herself from suffering. Rest assured, they reach her.

Open the door

When you enter a dark room, just lighting a small candle dispels the darkness.

The same thing happens with fears, which are metaphorically like darkness. They vanish with the Light of remembering the Love that we are.

The main problem we have is forgetting our essence as eternal mind-spirit. By hiding Love within ourselves under thick layers of ego, we mistakenly believe that we have to find it outside ourselves, in relationships.

We maintain relationships in which we are not happy in order to avoid facing the “fearsome” unwanted loneliness.

From our smallness, we desperately seek the approval of others in order to be part of the group and avoid being cast aside.

We want to prove our worth at all costs, how good we are, covering up a huge inferiority complex.

And anything but remembering our divine nature, our inexhaustible inner potential.

Don't fight your fears, as this will only increase them. Just remember the Love that you are, and they will disappear.

Open the inner door to your essence, and you will discover that you have nothing to fear.

You choose the path you want to follow

The most common attitude we have is criticism, or complaining, about our situation, at any level. We tend to focus on seeing the glass as half empty, a vision of scarcity driven by the ego. This also encourages us to compare ourselves with other people who have more of this or that, which leads to permanent dissatisfaction.

We are making a big mistake by validating the version of life that the ego gives us with its erroneous perspective that leads us to fear and judgment.

If we became aware, if we integrated, that in essence we were created as an extension of our Father, who is pure Love and abundance, inheriting all His Qualities, our world would change.

Every moment of our lives would become one of constant gratitude. This vision from the Being would lead us to see the glass as half full, from a place of abundance, and we would not engage in hateful comparisons.

And the fear of death would disappear as we feel that we are an eternal mind-spirit passing through a temporary bodily existence on this earth, where we have come to practice our lessons of true forgiveness.

All of this would lead us to inner peace.

Notice that the solution to the problem boils down to a single decision. The one we make in every moment of our lives to continue suffering by choosing the ego, as is usually the case, or to find inner peace by following the Being, our divine essence.

You choose the path you want to follow: that of fear or that of Love.

You don't exist

It is not easy to understand that the other person, as I perceive them, does not really exist. The image I see of them does not reflect what they are in essence, but rather my own inner projection.

The outside world functions as a large screen onto which I project my inner world. Everything I perceive is filtered by the ego. Therefore, in reality, I am always seeing myself reflected in what I observe outside.

My layers of ego distort perception. What I interpret as “reality” is my version of what is happening. That is why relationships with others are a valuable tool for self-knowledge: the harshest criticisms I direct toward others reveal aspects of myself that I still need to heal or integrate.

I suggest an exercise called “Projection Sheet,” which can help you get to know yourself better. Do it sincerely.

1. Take a piece of paper and a pen, sit calmly, and take several deep breaths.

2. Think of two people: one you dislike (someone you hate, envy, or criticize a lot) and another you sincerely admire.

3. First, write down what irritates you most about the person you dislike.

4. Then, write down the qualities and virtues you most value in the person you admire.

5. Take the time you need to do this.

Now, analyze your answers. What you criticize in others is often connected to parts of yourself that you deny, repress, or do not allow yourself to express. These are wounds, fears, or unmet needs that are asking to be acknowledged. My judgments are reflected in others. For example, if you said, “He's authoritarian,” ask yourself, “When, or with whom, do I also act authoritarian?”

On the other hand, the qualities you admire reflect your own potential: they are virtues that already exist in you or that you can develop if you allow yourself to.

This idea is related to what is popularly known as the “Law of the Mirror,” inspired by the studies of Carl Gustav Jung, a Swiss physician and psychiatrist, on psychological projection. Although it is not a formal law formulated by Jung, it is used in the field of personal development to express that our relationships act as mirrors that reflect both the conscious and, above all, the unconscious in us.

When I experience fear, anger, or mistrust, I am facing my own unconscious guilt. When I perceive Love, it is the Love of my Being reflected in the world.

The more Love I see outside, the more it will indicate that I have chosen the right inner path by gradually removing the filters of the ego that prevent the inner Light of my Being, which is pure Love, from manifesting itself.